Handling a Raunchy DJ at Your Wedding: A Comprehensive Guide
One of the last things you want on your wedding day is a controversial and inappropriate performance from your DJ. Guests expect a fun, joyful, and respectful atmosphere, and a raunchy DJ can quickly ruin that. Here's how to address the situation and what steps to take to manage it effectively.
Understanding the Issue
Some guests may not understand or appreciate the sensitivity required on a special day like a wedding. It's crucial to communicate clearly with the DJ to ensure they comprehend the boundaries and the importance of maintaining a respectful and appropriate tone in their performance.
Example of Communication
When I was booking a Led Zeppelin tribute band, a member sparked a debate by upholding certain lyrics as degrading to women. As a husband and father, this was a concern for me. It reinforced the importance of hiring someone who can respect everyone involved, and the need for clear communication beforehand.
Immediate Actions to Take
The moment you notice inappropriate language, you need to act quickly to prevent any further uncomfortable situations.
1. Direct and Firm Communication
If the DJ continues to use inappropriate language, it is crucial to be clear and firm in your instructions. You might say, 'Please stop drinking and speak properly. If you continue, I won’t be paying you for the rest of the night.' Most professional DJs understand the ramifications of such behavior and are unlikely to risk their career or reputation over a single instance of indiscretion.
2. Remove the Microphone if Necessary
If the DJ shows no sign of ceasing inappropriate behavior, you can take further action by removing their microphone. Ask the audio technician, if available, to disconnect the microphone temporarily. This serves as a clear warning that their conduct is unacceptable.
3. Review Online Prior to Hiring
Always conduct thorough research and read online reviews before hiring a DJ. This will give you an idea of their character, professionalism, and past behavior. Look for red flags that indicate inappropriate conduct.
Involve Others if Necessary
If the DJ does not comply, you may need to involve other professionals to manage the situation more effectively.
1. Engage Ushers or Security Personnel
Ask your ushers or security personnel to politely take the DJ aside and remind them of the sensitivity required on a wedding day. They can also convey your message to the DJ more directly, emphasizing that the bride and her guests are uncomfortable with the language used.
2. Document the Incident and Provide Feedback
Document the incident and provide hands-on feedback to the DJ. Mention this issue and how they addressed it in your review of the DJ. If the incident is severe and the DJ does not correct their behavior, consider providing specific examples of what they did wrong and how they should improve.
Financial and Other Incentives
To ensure a professional and respectful performance, you can also include financial incentives or penalties for appropriate conduct.
1. Set Penalty for Inappropriate Language
Communicate that for every obscenity, a specific amount will be deducted from their fee. You might say, 'For every obscenity, I am subtracting $20 from your fee. If that doesn’t work, I will post a video of his profanity on every wedding planning website in the area.' This will create a strong incentive for the DJ to maintain proper conduct.
2. Walk Away if Necessary
Finally, if the DJ continues to be disrespectful or inappropriate, be prepared to walk away. You have the right to find a professional who can respect everyone involved and provide a memorable, joyful, and respectful experience for guests.
Conclusion
Weddings are about celebrating happy moments and creating unforgettable memories. Ensure that the DJ you choose to entertain can contribute to a positive and respectful atmosphere for everyone. Clear communication, taking immediate action, and maintaining a professional conduct are key to managing any issues that may arise.